May 5, 2020
The Art of Loving your Naked body
because there is nothing unattractive about our nakedness.
Have you ever watched as your lover was sleeping? Have you sensed, as you looked on, a sacred feeling — a deep appreciation for the meaning that he or she added to your life? It wasn’t because you were looking at your lover’s best effort to look good. It was because you were looking at your lover’s most naked face. When we are asleep, we don’t have the presence of mind to be guarded or self-conscious. There is nothing unattractive about our nakedness. It is being uncomfortable with our nakedness that can be unattractive.
In my recent past, I had a lot of insecurities about my body because my eyes always rushed to the parts of me that I thought needed fixing. I disliked how my nose slants like a paper plane when I smile. I felt my lips are too thin for a black girl and sometimes, I still feel that way especially when I wear nude lipstick. I always thought having thinner thighs would make me feel sexier but It took losing weight to understand that even at 127 Lbs my thighs still look thick and that is okay.
The world is redefining sexy and celebrities are jumping onto this trend. Music videos today have all body types unlike in the past when smaller girls were the only ones considered sexy. Today, we have plus-size models representing all the thick beautiful people all over the world and they are making it big in the fashion industry.
Look at yourself naked more often
Start each day standing in front of the mirror naked. Before you put on any clothes or makeup embrace your nakedness. Enjoy the company of your naked self, let your tits hang, don’t suck in that stomach. Fall in love with the person you see in the mirror without feeling the urge to correct anything.
Love your nose; big, small, flat, sharp-pointed.
Love your big forehead.
Love your small or big butt.
Love your skin flawless or not.
Love your freckles.
Love your voice husky or soft.
Love every little thing you once hated about your body.
Embrace all the parts of your body that make you feel insecure until you accept each one of them as a unique part of your brand. You may not see this the first few days but keep looking until you emit that feeling of flawlessness. You’ve got to look in the mirror and want to fuck yourself.
Looking at my naked body daily has helped me accept that my fat thighs compensate for me not having hips, my slanted nose softness my face when I smile, and my thin lips leave room for the beauty mark above my upper lip to pop. Loving my naked body is still an ongoing journey.
Love the uniqueness of your naked body
Perfect bodies are an illusion. Imagine we lived in a world where we all looked the same, talked the same way. There would be nothing special about anyone. Everyone’s body is unique! Everyone carries their weight differently and comes in different shapes and sizes. Thin, fat, short, tall, and everything in between can make us take notice of how different someone seems to be. While sometimes we all seem to think that we are supposed to look exactly alike, People who celebrate their unique bodies often stand out the most to people.
Projecting body confidence and sex appeal
Ever met someone you didn’t think looked like prince charming but they still gave you a tingle because their personality projected sex? Did they make you feel they were more attractive than they initially appeared to be? Attractiveness isn’t about being the prettiest, it’s about the intangible sex appeal of knowing you’re the shit.
Sex appeal is fifty percent what you’ve got and fifty percent what people think you’ve got. -Sophia Loren
Very often, the people we regard as sexy aren’t perfect either but it’s the confidence they project in being themselves that makes us find them more attractive. No one will ever believe you are sexy if you cant believe it as well. It all starts with the mind. I see sexiness is an attitude you wear, you believe you are Marilyn Monroe then you are, you believe you are Cleopatra then embody that role, you believe you are a shy girl, don’t let that shyness overpower you, acknowledge that it is apart of you and it adds to your uniqueness. Embrace it by being a good listener, or use it as a protective shield to scan who has a genuine interest in getting to know you.
You don’t have to shrink who you are to make others feel comfortable, be your kind of sexy. Some people will like you just the way you are without you having to change a thing. You don’t have to lose weight to feel sexy you don’t have to gain it either to feel sexy. Until you change your situation work with what you have; love your body whether fat, small or thick.
Loving your body in and through hard times
I am not saying you will always feel great about your body but be gentle with yourself. On your bad days be careful about the words you choose to say to yourself and know that it is okay to have days you feel like shit. Acknowledge your emotions, feel what needs to be felt, and be a little kinder to yourself. Who you are right now is the compilation of years of changing and evolving, and you are not finished yet. You still have more to learn and experience about yourself and the world around you. Your best is yet to come.
You deserve to love your body despite being violated in the past.
You deserve to love your body despite the scars.
You deserve to be called sexy because you are sexy.
Be kind to yourself more often by loving yourself naked.
